Caregiving: Knowing When It's Time for In-Home Help
Feeling stretched thin? It might be time to consider bringing in help, according to Mattan Schuchman, M.D. , a geriatric specialist who provides in-home care to older patients through the Johns Hopkins Home-Based Medicine program.
Help With Daily Living For Older Adults
Caregiving is stressful in all sorts of ways. It can be financially demanding, especially if it interferes with your ability to work outside the home. It can suck up a lot of your time. And it can be emotionally and physically exhausting, too.
Of course you want what’s best for your aging spouse or parent. But feeling overwhelmed isn’t good for anyone. If you neglect your own well-being, the well-being of your loved one is likely to suffer, too.
“When you feel that you cannot adequately meet the needs of your loved one, I recommend hiring somebody to come in and help with activities of daily living,” Schuchman says.
Getting Past Caregiving Guilt
Unfortunately, caregivers often feel guilty about asking for help. They might feel like they’re letting their loved one down. But it’s likely that the care recipient also feels guilty about being a burden, Schuchman notes. “Often these feelings are mirrored on both sides.”
The best way to get past those feelings: Talk about them. “Having an open conversation with your loved one is really important,” he says.
It also helps to shift your thinking. Don’t think of asking for help as a sign of failure. Instead, think of it as focusing on what’s important. “If you hire someone to do the mundane day-to-day tasks, such as getting groceries or doing work around the house, you can focus instead on spending quality time with your loved one and making good memories together.”
Caregivers: Give Yourself A Break
“Caregivers of people who are ill should not feel guilty about taking a break and maintaining their own health,” says Kellie L.K. Tamashiro, Ph.D., an associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Johns Hopkins. “It’s difficult to step away and admit you need help, but if you don’t take care of yourself first, it’s hard to take care of others.”
What Kind of In-Home Help Is Available?
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